Guest blog from Alexandra Francis
Living with mindfulness has changed my life by allowing me to recognise areas
Sometimes taking time out to meditate is hard as my mind is so busy racing with
thoughts, ideas and stories that can be coupled with emotions. So, I have found
patience, acceptance and the ability to let go are all so important.
Feeling ‘good enough’ has been such a big part of my life and I’ve constantly tried
to achieve it. I’ve now come to recognise through meditation that I can only do
my best and my best is good enough.
I used that phrase for a group of year 6 children to silently say in their minds
before they did their SATs test. They could simply only do their best, which is not
something they’re told very often!
Having worked with children I see the freshness they hold, seeing everything as
if for the first time. Children do not have the baggage a lot of us carry, as they
haven’t been influenced by society and cultures. They are free to just be and
experience the present moment just as it is. We need to let go of our baggage to
enjoy the present moment.
Learning to have compassion for yourself and all beings is so important.
Compassion is about understanding that none of us is perfect and we all make
mistakes. Life can be a struggle at times and all we can do is be the best we can
be. You cannot love and have compassion for others if you are at war within
Most people aren’t in touch with their inner senses and it can show in their
relationships. If you are out of tune with yourself, it’s hard to be in touch with
Compassion is about the gift of care to others and to ourselves, to act towards
others as you would like them to act towards you, with an intention to create
good rather than harm. Be gentle and kind to yourself and the rest will follow.
It’s important not to judge yourself, as having unrealistic expectations and
beating yourself up will just set you up to fail. So be kind and compassionate to
yourself and enjoy the journey!